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What's Your Plan B?

Everyone has a plan 'till they get punched in the mouth. Mike Tyson

Last week I blogged about the wisdom of expecting the unexpected. It turns out that this is the basic tenet of the chaos theory, a term coined by mathematician James Yorke of the University of Maryland in 1974. The theory is complicated, but boils down to this: "Life is about not always expecting long-term plans to work out, and thinking in terms of short-term plans. You just can't predict what will happen to you on a daily basis."

Or, as I like to think of it, sometimes you get punched in the mouth.

What was your Plan A before cancer punched you in the mouth? What is your Plan B now? Did you embrace Plan B easily, or was it a struggle? Have you come to accept Plan B? What are the gifts and losses of your Plan B?

You're looking at my Plan B right now. Before I got cancer, I never in a million years thought I would blog or be active on Facebook and Twitter. I wanted to write, but didn't have a sense of what I wanted to write about. Now, my goal is to build a supportive community for cancer survivors through this blog, writing, social media and by speaking. I'm especially excited to be presenting seminars and am happy to report that we've rescheduled our symposium (which was canceled due to snow) for February 11th.  

I'd really like to know what your Plan B is and how it's working for you. I agree with Dr. Yorke that the most successful people are those who are good at Plan B. Are you one of those people?

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Comments

Barbara Bair's picture

I never anticipated having cancer and planned to continue teaching. I had never thought much beyond that and had no intention to retire. However, here am I am, happily retired and involved in all kinds of activities I didn't know existed. My life is all about volunteering (teaching ESL, Pathways as a patient educator, Operation Bling) and meditation classes. One of the best gifts about my new life is the wonderful people I meet daily and interact with. I find that cancer survivors are very loving, compassionate, and mindful.I have learned much about positive thinking and gratitude from them.I don't worry as much about the future and try to perform acts of loving kindness each day. I am much more spiritual than I used to be. Plan B is really working for me.

Debbie's picture

Barbara:

Congratulations on finding a Plan B that is so vibrant! You're an inspiring example of taking change in stride, embracing it and making it work even better for you. Bravo!

Survival > Existence,

Debbie 

 

laurence's picture

Don't know where really I am, Yes I have a family, kids and loving wife... how will I explain to my wife to change her attitude the way she text bad words everyday when I'm away from home... Can't she text beautiful words... 11 years of being husband to her only 1 out of 10 text messages were good enough to see, remaining makes my life miserable... always I feel sorry for everything I had done... What a miserable life we have... Is this the result of having a broken family...

Debbie's picture

Laurence:

I'm so sorry for the pain you and your family are going through. Is your wife or someone in your family suffering with cancer? 

Survival > Existence,

Debbie

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