When you're been married for two decades, you know life and marriage are about getting through stuff. Our relationship weathered this storm with amazing tenacity. Because it wasn't always easy, but the bond never broke and the love was always there. There is no greater gift than to realize that you never have to doubt - it's the surest thing in my life and that's all that matters.
It's hard to be patient and understanding of someone else's pain when you're experiencing so much of your own. It' also extremely difficult to "do this" to him and my children. I'm the wife and mother, the one who looks out for everyone else's emotional needs - I don't like being the one who needs all the support and nurturing. I feel guilty for needing what I need.